Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck ina a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure–not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.
from I <3 Female Orgasm, by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller.
It’s interesting to read what’s been written about sex toys. Even the savviest of sex educators don’t approach the radical — they talk more about the risks and negative consequences of sex toys than they discuss sexual pleasure. Today’s sex educators are quick to warn us of the dangers of phthalates, but they don’t explore simple issues, such as, what is pleasure? What are some principles that can help women experience pleasure and/or orgasms? What is the importance of repetition, and what is the importance of variety? What is “teasing,” and how can a sex toy tease you?
“It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure–not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.”
